Limiting beliefs are firmly held convictions that constrain us in some way. By believing them, we end up diminishing ourselves and impoverishing our lives. They tend to destroy your self-esteem, damaging your belief in your own ability to make the necessary changes in your life that will lead you to happiness and a more fulfilled life. When it comes to the limiting beliefs that destroy your self-esteem, here are the five most common beliefs that you may be holding onto.
1. I Don’t Deserve Anything Good
When you believe that you aren’t worthy of anything good in your life, you will subconsciously turn down any reasonable opportunities that come your way or sabotage those opportunities that you’ve already received. This limiting belief disrupts that balance of giving and receiving.
- “I’d never be able to afford that”
- “I could never buy that.”
- “That’s way out of my price range.”
2. I’m Not Good Looking Enough
When you continue to fail at finding a date, you begin to question your appearance. While appearance does play an essential role in delivering an excellent first impression, it is your charm and attractiveness that matters in the long run. It can be hard to appear confident if you always doubt your physical looks.
- “He/She is way out of my league.”
- “He/She is too good for me.”
3. I Will Only Fail in My Dream
When you trap yourself in a failure mindset, you will never have a chance to achieve success, regardless of what you are doing or how hard you work. The more you fear failure, the harder it will be for you to move on. Instead, you need to learn as much as you can from each mistake and failure you’ve encountered and move on quickly.
- ”If it weren’t for _____ I would have….”
- “It was ____ fault!”
- “I would/could have done it BUT…”
4. I Can’t Find Happiness
If you don’t know where to look for it, the quest for happiness in your life can be an eternal journey. While you will always encounter negative emotions, even when you are bursting with confidence, happiness is a skill that you can learn. You just have to start being grateful for all the little things you have in life.
- “I’ll be happier when…”
- “I’ll enjoy my life when…”
- “I’ll be able to have more fun after…”
5. I Can Never Turn This Around
When you experience setbacks and challenges in life, you may end up feeling anxious or depressed. When you hit rock bottom, you can’t see anything good happening to you in the future. If you continue to strengthen this belief, it will eventually turn into your reality. If you find yourself in this situation, it is vital to feel hopeful and start taking actions to dig yourself out of this hole.
- “I’ll never be out of debt.”
- “I’ll never be able to fix this.”
- “Nothing good ever happens to me.”
- “I never win anything.”
Don’t continue to allow these limiting beliefs to hold you back from being a confident person and living the life you truly want to live.
Thoughts are constantly flowing, they come and they go, obeying their own laws, not yours. And if you become aware that you are not your thoughts, the impact of those thoughts will began to diminish.
“The power of your thoughts lies in the fact that you think they are yours.” – Osho
Do not be fearful of challenging your own beliefs, it can lead to true transformation and evolution. In life we are always learning. But equally as important, we must unlearn that which does not agree with us anymore.
My hope for you is that you’ve had at least one or two “lightbulb” moments while reading this.
For a quick read on how to overcome limiting beliefs check out this article by inlpcenter.org.
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